A household with two people suffering a neurological brain condition… I have witnessed much. I realized we must look again how we deal with old age and illness. More importantly – we must stop the cruel practice of isolation.
I was told it is easier to do homecare in Spain because doctors here are old fashioned. My answer is yes and no.
Dr. Tolosa was the head of neurology at the Hospital Clinic . He had written a book about Parkinson’s. The definitive book.
One day the elevator in his private office was broken. My mother could not keep her appointment. His office was on the fifth floor. I asked the secretary if a home visit was possible. His office was close, only a block away. I did not expect much but what a surprise. He did agree to come.
He arrived at 9 pm and stayed till midnight. He sat next to mother, holding her hand, observing her every move. So sweet he was, so warm she was disarmed. At the end of the visit he asked me. Do you think Vera has Parkinson’s? I laughed. The number one world expert on Parkinson’s asking an artist?
I have to stop now. There is an apartment I have to see. In the morning I saw a nice one. Lots of light and birds singing. And a spectacular view of the Sagrada Familia . Quite small… I count every centimeter to make sure the hospital bed will fit.
5 pm Another apartment. I already knew the building. A Tibetan doctor – Dalei Lama’s, in fact – used to live there. I used to bring my mother to him. Shelly too. A lovely man that doctor. Your mother is very lovable, he used to tell me. She was. That was her new way of being after her fall. She was changed. But inside she was the same, with an amazing inner life. You could see it.
The apartment was a good size but too dark. I had trouble being in that building. My mother died four years ago and my grieving has not eased.
Try to find an apartment in Barcelona if you have a wheelchair. Most buildings are old and have no elevators. Some have stairs to elevators and no ramp. Some elevators are tiny. A stroller would not fit. I could go on. But there is no end to what is wrong with these buildings.
Tip of the day
Oximeter is a small device you slip on your finger. It measures your oxygen blood saturation and pulse. These two numbers are important. This is what emergency doctors will check first. The numbers tell the whole story. Blood saturation above 90 is normal. Pulse above 100 you have to watch. It is important to know what is normal for you. Variations are allowed. An oximeter in a household is a good idea. You will know when to call emergency. You can get one on amazon or ebay for less than 30 dollars. It will give you an accurate reading. That´s all for today.
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